I’m getting married in September.
Wow, it feels strange to really think about; a year ago I was thinking I’d be doomed to singledom as I approach my 30s (no offense lifetime singlers!) and was considering getting a dog to keep me company for the next phase of my life.
It wasn’t because I had low self-esteem or didn’t think I was worthy of being someone’s mate, but being an introvert sure doesn’t make it very easy to meet people–especially girls–ESPECIALLY trying to flirt and act like I know what I’m doing.
I’ve had a handful of relationships in my life, nothing more than a year, though. I tried my hand at some online dating sites, such as PlentyofFish and OkCupid, hoping to avoid paying for romance. The advantage to using a matchmaking service is that you get to know someone enough ahead of time that when you finally do meet in person, it’s not nearly as nerve-wracking. You know you’ll have things to talk about, because you know you already have things in common, or at least you know some of each other’s interests.
I ended up not needing to pay for a dating site; I found the love of my life through a more preferred route–friendship. It’s true, being friends first with your partner is probably ideal for many people. The thing is, when you’re friends, you may not even know you are interested in one another until one of you puts yourself out there. And then, oh boy, you risk getting denied and embrace for the inevitable awkwardness.
Thankfully, it worked out for the better with me. I had known my fiance for almost a year through a small church group. Apparently she liked me way before I even considered my interest in her. But it doesn’t matter now. Our first date was just like hanging out with a friend, no stress or panic attacks–just fun.
For an introvert, I don’t think you can ask for anything better.