Inglis, himself an introvert, went on to say, “If you at their first encounter embrace [introverts], celebrate them…you will get their best efforts forever.”
As an introvert, dating is probably in my top five most anxiety inducing activities. It’s hard enough to talk to strangers at social events, but trying to talk to someone you have the hots for? Flirting? I have no idea what I’m doing. Thankfully I’m engaged now and don’t have to worry about this anymore.
PsychCentral has some quick dating tips for introverts that I could have used years ago. Here’s my favorite:
Look for subtle connections: Sometimes we get so flooded by first impressions and things to look out for, it’s difficult to just feel what it’s like to sit with this person. Do you like being there? Or does it feel crowded, overwhelming, or make you nervous? Make sure you actually enjoy hanging out with your date.
I completely agree with this. I’ve often had post-date de-briefing with female friends who ask me all these body language questions. Um, how do I know if she was licking her lips or touching my leg? I was too worried about what to talk about next or, heaven help me, run through all the end-of-night-saying-goodbye scenarios that I couldn’t focus on anything else! Do we hug? Do I kiss her on the cheek? Shake her hand?
Anyway, I think if I had to do the dating thing all over again, I would focus on being in the moment. Breathe. Smile. Laugh. But don’t be a creep.